away I thought I better get busy. So yesterday I asked what he wanted to do for his birthday. “I want to have my party at Hooter’s,” was his reply. After I picked my jaw up from the floor I asked why. “I like trying new things Mom and it looks like a fun place. It looks kind of fancy but in a good way.” I was at a loss for words. My little man was talking like a big man. And what the hell did he mean by fancy?!
My mind raced. I imagined the parents of his school friends cringing as they opened the party invitations. I imagined what type of gift bags might be passed out at such a party and I got chills when I thought of the party pictures. I imagined my father with a giant smile on his
face sitting next to the birthday boy helping him blow out the candles on the woman shaped cake. I imagined kicking my husband under the table each time his eyes left mine. I imagined a total and complete party disaster.
But I held my tongue, I couldn’t reply to his request until I thought it through. I had to have a good reason to say no so I went through different scenarios in my head.
Is it an inappropriate place for kids? No. It’s billed as a ‘family restaurant’ and they have a kids menu.
Is it an inappropriate place for kids because of how the waitresses are dressed? We see people at the pool with less clothes on. At least all the important parts are covered. With the free and easy breastfeeding movement these days my kids see boobs everywhere.
Is it okay for a kid to see a woman breastfeeding but not okay to see a scantily clad waitress?
I don’t want my son to grow up being sexist or thinking it’s okay to ogle women. But that’s kind of what Hooter’s is all about. The waitresses know they will be ogled when they apply for the job. So is it okay for men to ogle women at Hooter’s but not acceptable when they leave the
premises? I guess that answer would be yes. There is a time and a place for ogling and Hooter’s is the place.
If I tell Will Hooter’s is out of the question he will forever think something is ‘wrong’ with the place and that will make him want to go there even worse. Is something wrong with the place? I really don’t
I saw a post online today about a dad letting his little boy (toddler) wear dresses because he wants to. The father doesn’t know if the boy will grow up to be; straight, gay or a cross-dresser. This dad is cool with whatever decision his son makes in the future. Does it work the same
way for parents of kids that want to go to Hooters? Are we suppressing our son in some way by keeping the Hooter’s experience from him?
My husband and I still have to have a conversation regarding Will’s party idea. (Which should be interesting.) I’m still on the fence about this. Help me out. I would never let him have a party there with his friends but should we take him there for lunch, just with our family?
Weigh in friends. Is Hooter’s an appropriate place for an eight-year-old boy? Have your kids been to Hooter's?